Bless this House


I realized that I have not yet given an update on the home we are having built for our new blended family. Everything happened really fast back when we signed the contract for the house. Things we were changing and timelines were shortening so we prayed fast and acted fast, and then life continued on at full speed pulling us along with it before we had much chance to let it sink in! Now that the wedding has come and passed by, we are able to place more focus on this new exciting chapter coming to us!

If you don’t know, we are currently staying in what we are calling our “in-between house”. This is the third place our crew has stayed together, but the first place we have stayed as a family and been able to live all together without the complications of living as single parents under one roof. If that makes no sense, you can flash back in our story and read all about it. Getting here was an adventure, but I won’t recount all of that again. We are now settled in here, and while it is not the perfect fit for a family our size, we are so happy to have it as our place to begin and it is working out great for now!

Every Sunday after church, we go to Dunkin’ and then take a drive past our house-to-be and check out the progress. For what seemed like a long time, there was no change at all week after week it looked like the picture above. The week that we drove up and found a foundation where the pile of dirt used to be resulted in a celebration on that big gray slab-smiles, hugs, and of course pictures!

As we all stood out there together, we spread to the outer perimeters of the house and each stood where our rooms would be. image22If you have ever had a house built before, you know that at that stage, while exciting, it is very hard to visualize all that will be. I also have a hard time getting too excited about things too early on because it is hard to believe it will actually happen as you hope. David on the other hand has had huge amounts of excitement at every stage. It is so fun to see him light up each Sunday as we approach the location of the house. Before the wedding, we saw more stages reached. The block around the outside of the house went up showing where doors and windows would soon exist. The block was filled and pillars were put in place in front of the house. image21The week of the wedding we went earlier in the week and saw a lot of wood get delivered, but knew we wouldn’t be able to check in again for about a week and a half.

This past week, we were going to see the house with low expectations. It had been a rainy week and we didn’t want to get our hopes up and find that not much had been able to change. As the house came into view, all of our faces lit up-we had a roof! And the wood for the interior walls was up! It suddenly looked like a house! And felt so much bigger and was cause for so much excitement.

The pastor of our church always has members gather when a new part of the church is being built. We all take sharpies and write all over the foundation. We write verses and prayers for the people that will gather there, for our mission together as a church, for the relationships built and grown there. I have always loved the idea. 13531864_804581206310775_392775153_n(1)When Krista (bestie/former business partner/right hand the last few years) and I were opening our store front for our bakery, we wrote verses and prayers all over the walls behind where we were hanging huge white boards. Once covered, we wouldn’t see them, but they would always be there and would be the foundation for what was built there. When we saw the house had entered this stage and would soon begin to have these exposed parts covered, David and I knew we needed to get over there soon and do the same for our new home. We wanted God’s Word always there all around us. We wanted prayers for our family surrounding us and existing as the foundation of our new home.

Wednesday night, we had no kids home with us. I know, we were surprised too! I worked all day on a list of verses and gathered sharpies and flash lights. I was ready to go when David got home from work…but it was pouring. We discussed our options and decided to go anyway! We weren’t letting this get rained out. When I said it had a roof, I meant it had wood on top, but no shingles yet. Rain still dripped through. Puddles still formed. We didn’t care! We went around the house together sprinkling Scripture and praying for our family. And besides one eye injury, I know it will be a time we always remember. Here is what we decided on for our home:

For the Front Door (Going In):
*Luke 10:5 says, “Whatever house you enter, first say, ‘Peace be to this house’.” So above the door frame we wrote: Peace be to this house.
*As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Joshua 24:15image2

For the Front Door (Going Out):
*Love Others
*The Lord bless you and keep you, The Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. The Lord turn His face upon you and give you peace. Number 6:24-25

For the Office (where our computers will be, where David will work, and where this blog will be written):
*In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy path. Proverbs 3:6
*Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your father which is in heaven. Matthew 5:16
*Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. Philippians 4:8

For the Bedroom:
*Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Ephesians 4:2-3
*Love is patient. Love is kind, I Corinthians 13 (Am I the only one that thinks TWO verses about patience area a good idea?)
*I am my Beloved’s and my Beloved is mine. Song of Solomon 6:3

For the Great Room:
*”I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord, “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
*Love one another. John 13:34
*The Lord will fight for you. You need only be still.” Exodus 14:14

For the Kitchen/Dining Room:
*Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing, some people have entertained angels without knowing it. Hebrews 13:2
*Give us this day our daily bread. Matthew 6:11
*And He humbled you and let you hunger and fed you with manna…that He might make you know that man does not live by bread alone, but man lives by every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord. Deuteronomy 8:3image14

Bathroom that Grace, Hope, Madalyn and Meredith will share:
*I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made! Psalm 139:14

Bathroom that Josiah, Charlotte and Faith will share:
*I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

We then went to each kid room one at a time and left verse for that room and a prayer for the children that will grow up there.

Josiah’s Room:
*The Lord your God is with you. He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you. He will quiet you with His love. He will rejoice over you with song. Zephaniah 3:17image10

Charlotte and Faith’s Room:
*And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly, to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. Micah 6:8image7

Hope, Madalyn and Meredith’s Room:
*It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from within you- the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. This beauty will never disappear and is worth much to God. I Peter 3:3-4image9

Grace’s Room:
*Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou and example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12image8

Across the Foundation of the House:
This was the last place to write and we were losing sunlight. We decided that the foindation for the house should be the foundation of our family. At our wedding, we had a framed verse on each table. These were the verses that carried each of us through the hard part of our journeys before God brought us together. Verses of hope and beauty and His faithfulness. We wanted these same verses on the foundation of our home. I dwindled the list down a little but this is what we spread across the cement where our house will stand:image5
*He will give beauty for ashes. Isaiah 61:3
*He who has promised is faithful! Hebrews 10:23
*Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly beyond anything we can think or even imagine. Ephesians 3:20
*The Lord has done great things for us and we are filled with joy. Psalm 126:3
*In Him, all things hold together. Colossians 1:17
*Rejoice ALWAYS. pray continually, give thanks in ALL circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16
*The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. Psalm 23:1
*Those who sow in tears, shall reap in joy. Psalm 126:5

Before we left, we wrote thank you in the door way and signed our names. We know all things are a gift and can be gone as quickly as they come. Part of what we each lost in years past were the homes we had begun raising our children in. We both had to pack up and walk away from houses we weren’t ready to leave; houses we had pictured spending all of our kids’ childhoods in. We know to appreciate what we have while we have it but hold it loosely. On the horizon, we see more fulfillment of His promises to us, but come what may, we will always remember what He brought us through and what(/who) He brought us to and trust Him. image4



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Ashley Karaffa

Ashley is mother to a blended family of 10 and appreciating the beautiful chaos of it all. She enjoys creating systems - because how can you survive a family with 8 kids without systems - and spending time celebrating her family.


  1. Laura on June 16, 2017 at 12:50 am

    Wow! Praise the Lord! What an amazing testimony of God’s redemption! Love mercy grace and favor! Cannot wait for the house warming party!!! Love you guys!!!

  2. Joline Fried on June 16, 2017 at 12:56 am

    When I first met you as we were searching for a birthday cake 3 1/2years ago, you became a blessing and a memory of our sons birthday. That happened a few more times. I loved watching your family evolve and grow. I’m so happy that your families have found each other and have become blended. It’s beautiful to watch, even just on FB. Wishing you all the absolute best!

    • becomingblended16 on July 4, 2017 at 2:54 pm

      Aww, thank you so much Joline! Meeting you was a confidence boost I needed to really flourish. I had made cakes for friends and friends of friends, but you were someone I didn’t know before and who raved and shared and encouraged! I thank you for that <3
      I am so happy you are still a friend!

  3. Regina on June 16, 2017 at 4:04 am

    You amaze me.and you always honor God’s word and promises. May He continue to be 1st in your hearts as you continue becoming blended.and remember to have fun!!

  4. Laurel E on June 16, 2017 at 2:10 pm

    As always, I’m blown away! My faith has been nourished through God”s work in your lives. Lord, continue to keep Your Hand upon this family – Amen!

  5. Barbara O'Connell on June 18, 2017 at 2:05 am

    It’s amazing to me how you constantly put your faith into action. What a wonderful idea for you and David to write scripture throughout your new home…..building your blended family on a secure foundation of God’s Word.

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